Musings: Being Gay, in Ireland, This Weekend

As a gay woman in Ireland, and proud of it, Eamon Delaney will no doubt view me as one of the ones that ‘want to increasingly change mainstream culture to suit them’ but I’m here to put him right.
 
Now I know Delaney stated in the piece that he wasn’t ‘being reactionary’ and is ‘all for gay rights and an end to prejudice and discrimination‘ but frankly if you’ve read it then you’ll know that is clearly not the case (here’s a link just so you know what I’m talking about).

 
Yes I want gay people to have the same marriage rights as heterosexual people, I also want full adoption rights and for gay men to be allowed to donate blood. But I don’t see this as changing main stream culture to suit myself, I see it as fixing three key pieces of legislation that mean that gay people have less rights than their straight counterparts.
 
Personally I have no interest in ever getting married or having children (I’m sure there are straight people who feel this way too by the way,) but that doesn’t mean the option shouldn’t exist for me at all, does it?
 
Apparently the Guardian column The Three of Us, written by Coronation Street’s Charlie Condou, about raising his daughter with his partner and the child’s biological mother (the latest of which can be seen here,) strikes Delaney ‘as strange’. He also says that comparing Condou‘s (and others raising children in same sex relationships,) situation to divorced parents, children often have more than two parents in these situations too, is ‘fatuous and nonsense’. He maintains that a child ‘has two parents, whether separated or not’.
 
What exactly Delaney thinks is going to happen to children raised by either two men or women (though this entire article seems directed at men more than women,) I don’t know but he does say that the idea of gay adoption makes him ‘feel uneasy and impatient with the idea that raising a child with homosexual parents is totally equivalent to a child being raised by its natural heterosexual parents’. The use of the words ‘natural heterosexual parents’ makes me wonder if he’s against adoption in general because surely adopted children aren’t raised by their natural parents either, are they? 
 
And just when you thought the article couldn’t get any more offensive he drops this little bombshell, ‘Bisexual? Isn’t that reminiscent of the loose Seventies sexual experimentation? How many bisexuals are there?’. All I can say to that is, well actually there are no words to answer that other than OH PLEASE.
 
Believe it or not this was not the only idiotic gay related incident in the Irish media over the weekend. On Saturday night the Nob Nation and Green Tea mimic/comedian Oliver Callan was asked some of the most ridiculous questions ever by Brendan O’Connor on The Saturday Night Show.
 
Before I discuss the interview itself I just want to get two things out there. Firstly, I don’t find Callan funny in the slightest (I never have, in fact when I heard he was on the show I tweeted that I’d rather watch paint dry,) and secondly I haven’t seen the skit he did that led to the altercation between himself and Paul Galvin. 
 
Callan was on the show to hit back at claims that he’s homophobic as a result of certain skits he’s done in the past of people like Senator David Norris, Louis Walsh and of course Paul Galvin and he stated that he wasn’t homophobic because he was gay.
 
Setting aside the fact that it’s entirely possible to be both homophobic and gay, which wasn’t addressed at all in the interview following his announcement, what shocked me the most was that Brendan O’Connor actually said this ‘Given that it was Monaghan I’m sure they tried to cure you, did they?’ followed by ‘Did you ever kiss girls when you were younger?’. 
 
I couldn’t believe my ears, fair play to Callan for not telling him to f**k off or leaving the stage because it’s more than likely I would have done both if I’d been in that position.
 
He did say that he didn’t think he’d ever have to make a big public announcement about his sexuality but said that ‘it’s something you have to acknowledge publicly to help the whole process along’.
 
I really wish I  lived in a society where these kinds of announcements from people in the public eye weren’t seen as a big deal (and I know from a lot of the tweets afterwards the general consensus was ‘who cares?’) but the reality is that if Callan’s interview gave even one person the confidence to tell people they’re gay or helped them feel more comfortable with about it themselves then the whole thing was worth it. 
And for that reason alone I’m more than happy for people to make public statements about it, though hopefully followed by more intelligent questions than Brendan O’Connor’s.